No More Empty Promises to Yourself – Part 1

Another year is drawing to a close and you’re probably already thinking back on the past twelve months with some regret about that you should have done or wanted to do – but, for countless seemingly great reasons, you never really got around to taking action on your plans. And you are probably already thinking about the futility of making New Year’s resolutions that you won’t keep – yet again. I’m here to challenge you today to break that awful cycle and stop making empty promises to yourself!

The process for your success is remarkably simple and I outline it in general terms in my book, “Running Inspired – A Journey to Finding Your Inner Greatness.” A summary of the basic steps is as follows:

1.Set a goal that will make a difference in your life.
2.Make a plan to achieve your goal.
3.Work your plan! Wishing and hoping isn’t going to change your life, only action is!
4.Accept that your plan will change – so adapt, refocus, and recommit yourself.
5.Celebrate your success and set your next goal.

In the coming months, I’ll focus on each of the steps and devote more time to a thorough discussion with the intent to help you clarify your thinking as it relates to your own situation.

I have made a number of major changes in my life in recent years – as I approached (and passed) age 50. Some of these changes were things that I wanted to do and some were things that I desperately needed to do, but all of the changes started with a realization of who I was (or wasn’t) and who I wanted to wanted to be. Change can seem daunting or outright scary, but it is a necessary transition to get from you are today to your desired tomorrow. It must be worth the price you pay – in whatever form – to get to your desired, better state of being or you will not make the change. Although your goal may be worthy, maybe the trouble lies in your planning process. Too often people create a plan that call for too much to change too quickly – so that transition is just too abrupt to bridge the gap and you may get frustrated and fail to achieve your goal. The best plan is one which is built upon a series of little changes to allow you to enjoy small wins and build the momentum and confidence to tackle bigger, more difficult challenges.

I am convinced that anyone is capable of recreating themselves given the burning desire to do so, despite their past perceived limitations. And that desire is a fueled only by a deeply held belief in yourself to overcome all obstacles and achieve your dreams. I’m reminded of a mantra I saw recently that reads “Limitations live only in your mind” – because it captures the idea so beautifully.

So I’ll leave you with a homework assignment: Start thinking about how you want to change your life for the better, because we’ll explore that in more detail in the next part of this series.

— Linda